Behaviors That Drive Us Nuts - Ring any bells?

Barbara Pachter, in her book The Power of Positive Confrontation, says that there are 12 kinds of behaviors that drive us nuts:

1. Space Spongers. These are people who play their music too loud, leave messes for others to clean up, neighbors who let dogs in our yard, or co-workers who don't respect our property.

2. Telephone Traitors. When you deal with this person, you might have complaints like these: "I have to do all the calling." "She never calls me back." "He only calls when he wants something."

3. Bad Borrowers. They return your car with no gas (or ahem, not in time for a date), CDs with scratches, and money they borrow never gets paid back.

4. Constant Complainers. Everyone knows one - the person who always had a problem or gripe that never gets resolved.

5. Interloping Interrupters. People don't like to be interrupted or not to be given an opportunity to join equally in a conversation.

6. Callous Commenters. Among other things, this can be the neighbor who makes nasty comments or the person telling racist or sexist jokes. You don't like what this person says.

7. Work Welchers. Some people just don't do their fair share whether at home, work, or on the volunteer committee.

8. Favoritism Frustration. "What about me?" Your boss gives his pals the best projects or your mother-in-law gives better presents to her daughter's kids.

9. Holiday Hogs. Your spouse always wants to spend the holidays with his or her family. One of you wants to go to Hawaii for vacation; the other wants to hike the Appalachian trail.

10. Request Refusers. You ask your spouse to be on time for dinner. Your co-worker knows you need the report by 2 p.m., but doesn't deliver; your client will not give the tax information you've asked for. These are people who say they will grant your request by don't.

11. Atrocious Askers. You're asked to do something by your friend, boss, or loved one that you don't want to do or don't agree with.

12. Interloping Loved Ones. Some people want to tell you what they think - even if you don't want to hear it. (my grandmother comes to mind.)